Binding: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 155.232
EAN: 9781572241985
ISBN: 1572241985
Label: New Harbinger Publications
Manufacturer: New Harbinger Publications
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 316
Publication Date: 2000-05-15
Publisher: New Harbinger Publications
Studio: New Harbinger Publications

Since its first publication in 1987, Self-Esteem has become the first choice of therapists and savvy readers looking for a comprehensive, self-care approach to improving self-image, increasing personal power, and defining core values. More than 600,000 copies of this book have helped literally millions of readers feel better about themselves, achieve greater success, and enjoy their lives to the fullest.

You can do it, too!

By using these books - Self-Esteem Companion, Self-esteem Guided Journal and Self _esteem, 3rd edition - as a set, you’ll be able to customize your self-esteem work with exercises and writing projects that reinforce and support the ideas in the original book.

Customer Rating:
Summary: Read Self-Esteem- It's Worth It
Comment: Who's the book for? Anyone who wants to improve their self-esteem.

What's the goal of the book? To improve your self-esteem.

How does it do this? By showing you how to disarm your "inner critic", you know, that negative inner voice that attacks and judges you. Everyone has one, and people with low self-esteem tend to have a more vicious inner critic.

Is it easy to read? Yes, the book is laid out well and written in a very friendly tone. The first three chapters cover the most important and universally applicable information. After finishing them, there is a chart for you to look at. It will direct you to the appropriate chapter(s) that deal with your specific problems. Neat!

You don't have to read the book cover-to-cover unless you just need general info- but that's what's good about it; you can use the book to fit your individual needs. With over 600,000 copies sold, it must have helped a few people! Other self-help books I liked include Finding Happiness in a Frustrating World. Good luck!

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Customer Rating:
Summary: Great Book
Comment: You'll see results from this book if you stick to it. Go through the chapters slowly and take time to follow the suggestions - I've found them quite helpful! This is one of the best self-esteem books I've seen.

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Customer Rating:
Summary: How to Cope With Stress
Comment: This work provides practical strategies on how to
identify both constructive and non-constructive
criticisms . People need motivation.
As such, considerable things are achieved
when we have the requisite drive.

The critic tends to serve
our guilt with a heaping of criticism. The authors
provide strategies to anticipate the criticism and
deal with it constructively. According to the authors,
we should seek to unmask the criticism to divine its
purpose. In some ways, critics serve us by solving
the fear of failure. Some say that you cannot do
things. Occasionally, they are proven wrong.

Monitoring the critic will help us sort out the
non-constructive criticism from criticism that
helps to make us better people in every aspect.
According to the author, we should look at the rule
structures which are at the heart of our
critics. Are the rules relevant, fair or topical ?
If they aren't, we have a basis to view the
criticism with skepticism.

The authors also remind us to view ourselves
dispassionately. Try to determine how others see you.
Sometimes, your physical appearance or demeanor are
important. How do you relate to other people?

To get answers to these questions, we must learn to
listen in order to receive quality input. The authors
provide a wealth of very pertinent information helpful
in strengthening every aspect of inter-personnel
relations with a plethora of people around us.
i.e. mentors, peers, friends, relevant others etc.

The book is worth the purchase price for the
significant value of the information contained within.

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Customer Rating:
Summary: If you're only looking for one book on Self Esteem, then this is the one
Comment: This is one of the few books on self esteem that covers the inner critic and the outer critic. If all you ever do is reduce the criticism in your life, your self esteem will improve.

As an added bonus, the book also covers risk assessment, and how to identify blockages that prevent you from fully analyzing the risk of any given choice or situation. This is almost more important than self esteem, as the right choices will always lead you to prosperity, and the wrong choices will always lead you to lack. The ability to clearly see the risk associated with any given choice is immense.

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Customer Rating:
Summary: Highly Recommended
Comment: I cannot speak highly enough of this book. I found it to be absolutely invaluable in developing better self esteem. You do need to actually sit down with a pen and paper and do the exercises it suggests, but I found this process really helped me to understand myself and my thinking patterns better.

For me, what really opened my eyes was the way the authors explained how the inner critic is reinforced. I feel that this is crucial information which is missing from many other books on self esteem. The authors explain a number of different ways in which we reinforce our inner critic and more importantly, they explain why we continue to use these self-limiting behaviours and provide alternatives. A simple example of this is that your inner critic drives you to achieve goals. You may tell yourself that you will be stupid or worthless if you don't achieve a high exam mark, or a good performance review at work. The critic is reinforced because this fear and criticism motivates you to achieve - yet it also sacrifices your self esteem. A healthier alternative is to rebut the inner critic and practice visualization techniques to motive you to achieve success.

The chapters on Compassion and Handling Mistakes also really helped to alter my way of thinking. I, like many other people, had a tendency to continually beat myself up over past mistakes. The book helped me to reframe the way I think about mistakes. More importantly, it helped me to understand the limits of my awareness, at the time of the mistake we are usually attempting to get our needs met in what we deem to be the most effective way. The chapter on Compassion also provided a really simple and powerful exercise which helped me to move past mistakes made by myself and other people.

Another reason I highly recommend this book is the chapter on Core Beliefs. We are usually completely unaware of our negative core beliefs and therefore they continue to have a very profound negative effect on our self-esteem at a deep level. Identifying and testing my core beliefs has been an eye-opening and empowering experience. It does take time as there are no quick-fixes, but the process of building more positive core beliefs has fundamentally changed the way I view myself and the world around me.

Other parts of this book which I found to be helpful were the sections on responding to criticism, healthy and unhealthy values, asking for what you want and the accurate self assessments.

In summary, this book has been instrumental in building my self-esteem. It is written in an easy to understand and relatively entertaining manner. There are plenty of practical exercises to help you apply the information that is given. I strongly recommend it.

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