Binding: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 158.2
EAN: 9780312204280
ISBN: 0312204280
Label: St. Martin's Griffin
Manufacturer: St. Martin's Griffin
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 224
Publication Date: 1999-09-10
Publisher: St. Martin's Griffin
Studio: St. Martin's Griffin

How many times have you been manipulated or taken advantage of by someone's lies? Are you tired of being deceived, tricked, and fooled? Finally, renowned behaviorist David J. Lieberman shows you how to stop the lies and uncover the truth-- in any conversation or situation. In a simple, user-friendly format, Dr. Lieberman gives you the tools to determine, with uncanny accuracy, if you are being lied to.

Utilizing newly developed techniques in hypnosis and psycholinguistics, this book also shows you how to easily influence anyone to tell the truth-- within minutes. Use it in any situation, from casual conversation to in-depth interviews. Never Be Lied to Again is chock-full of colorful examples and engaging scenarios to help you keep from being taken advantage of and give you that extra edge. Use these groundbreaking techniques to take control of every personal and business situation...and never be lied to again.

When liars are being accused of something, they'll stay calm because they're working on their rebuttal; this is why detectives were suspicious of O.J. Simpson when he didn't express outrage when accused of murdering his ex-wife and Ronald Goldman. Never Be Lied to Again is bursting with tested tips like this for quickly determining when you're being boondoggled. Body language, facial expressions, sentence structure, and word choice can all reveal when someone is lying, says psychologist David J. Lieberman, and he includes 46 of these "clues to deception" to help you, including tricks for framing questions without putting others on the defense. Once you use your newly honed "human lie detector" skills to figure out if you're being lied to, you can then dig for the truth using the specific, influential words and body postures that Lieberman suggests. Written with flair and humor, Never Be Lied to Again is designed to help you get the upper hand in any situation, whether you're trying to figure out if your spouse is cheating on you or if you suspect your coworkers are cooking the books.

Customer Rating:
Summary: Hope a revised version is in the works...
Comment: Given the complexity of the subject matter, this book was about 60 pages too long and another 250 too short.

I'm kind of a, well let's just say it, expert on lying and interpersonal communication. Heck, just look at what I've been able to get across in just 2 sentences plus this one.

In conclusion I think this book took a subject matter which is deserving of much more serious consideration - at least 200 more pages of such - and presented it in a fairly random and scattered fashion with "real-life examples" consisting of dialog that a That 70's Show fan would scoff at. Taking the other route, the author could have cut out at least 60 pages of fluff and Summaries which appear at the end of some sections and not others, and written a darn good pocket guide to deception-detecting.

My 2-star rating means that I liked about 40% of what I read so I will check out this author's other books if I come across them.

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Customer Rating:
Summary: This is dangerous.
Comment: This book is really interesting. It's contains a lot of useful information. So why did I give it 0 stars? It's not what it advertises it to be.

If the book was advertised as examples of how a certain conflict situation went, what might have gone through the minds of parties involved, and Dr. Lieberman's explanation of mechanics of human mind explaining how that can be, I would have gave this book a top rating.
The reason I can't give any positive rating is that this book is written like a "Do A, and you get B" type guide. Not only is this not the case in real life, it can be dangerous.

Example in the book: You suspect one of your salespeople has lied to a customer in order to make a sale.
The book suggests that you tell the suspect that you're having problems with someone telling lies to customers and that you want his advice.

The book tells that if the suspect is innocent, he would be glad that you're seeking advice from him and likely to offer it. And, if he is guilty, he would tell you that he would never do such things.

There might be millions of reason why the actual result may be different. The innocent may say he would never do such things for reason's you may never have thought of.

This book is just exemples of how people MIGHT think or act, but it's advertised as if it's a detective manual. That kind of amature detective work can really get someone hurt.

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Customer Rating:
Summary: This guy is a nightmare...yuck.
Comment: It's rare that I can't help but take notes to write a review as I read a book. This book was so distasteful that those notes had to come out somewhere or fester inside like a pile of rotting meat.

Yeah, sorry. A bit dramatic, I know. Anyway, here are my notes:

- Poorly written sentences.

- Entirely unsupported assertions.

- He's a shameless self promoter (who *quotes themselves* in his or her own book?!) He is obviously very, very impressed with himself.

- Unlikely to detect a lie from an intelligent person this way.

- Likely to get many false positives (i.e., a determination of a lie when the truth was told) from those who are merely socially awkward.

- He's a big fan of "always" and "never" -- these words should be used sparingly in any field, but especially in psychology.

- He essentially mandates repeated, blatant deceit in the person trying to detect a lie. (Did I mention, "yuck!"?)

- I've managed to develop a strong dislike for this author as a person. In his most honest moment, I would guess that he fancies himself a master manipulator. In truth, I would guess that he is merely a frequent manipulator.

- This book should have been entitled, "How to Manipulate Stupid People."

- He calls his methods "attack sequences"?! Who does he think he is, Sun Tzu?

- His purported step-by-step method is no more than a barely organized mishmash of snippets.

- Follow the tips in this book and YOU, TOO, can LOSE ALL YOUR CREDIBILITY! (Not to mention establishing yourself as a grade-A jerk.)

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Customer Rating:
Summary: Please don't be suckered in to buying this book by its great title!!
Comment: This book should be subtitled: If you think someone is a liar, you are one step closer to proving it! Rarely do I see such a highly rated book with such dorky, inner Nixon, paranoid advice as this. Really, the author advises clumsy trickery and other shenanigans to get the liar to fess up. The premise that you are talking to someone that you already know is a liar, is the number one ace up your sleeve according to this book. This sounds like the hokey rationalizations that my stepmother and old babysitters used to use on us kids years ago when attempting to sniff out the liar amongst us, always beginning and ending with the idea that we were all liars anyway.

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Customer Rating:
Summary: In under 5 minutes??
Comment: If something appears too good to be true, it usually is. The author's shameless self promotion is another give away, but take a look at one of his principles----(skip the 5 minute idea and see the news programs where FBI agents; the best in the US, take 4 hours for a full interview...--

the principle the author says is that when someone is lying, they don't give many details because IT NEVER HAPPENED.

Look at the Casey Anthony case. We have INCREDIBLE details (literally). We have not only a fake "nanny", but we get a full description, relatives, car accident, injury, injury follow up, and on and on and on. TMI: TOO MUCH INFORMATION.

Liars will pile on details, but what they lack is SENSORY descriptions. When a rape victim says "his hands smelled like motor oil" it is likely true. It was, sadly, something that stuck in her mind.

A good interview takes hours.

Mark McClish: I Know You Are Lying is a standard for Law Enforcement. It is a skill to be aquired and it will never be done in 5 minutes, nor in the time it takes to read a book. It takes lots and lots of practice, and although someone with training and LOTS of practice may pick up possible deception early on, it takes time to establish: is this a lie? is it withholding information? and if so, WHY?

This is more like an Informercial where the author uses Amazon to bang on his own drum. This is not something professionals ever need to do; their work speaks for them.

Pass on the fluff. I would recommend StatementAnalysis dot com as a good starting point.

People who are good at this are not "human lie detectors"; they are just very good at picking up deceptive language, which is far more telling than body language. Try interviewing someone who gives the signals of deception with his legs, only later to learn that with ADHD off medicine, his legs move like that ALL the time; not just when being interviewed.

Language is the key.

How did Solomon discern between who's baby it was? Language.
What did the Bible say, centuries ago? "Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth doth speak".

Although some body language and eye movement is helpful, it is only in conjunction with good, old fashioned listening...THAT is something that takes time to cultivate.

Check out McClish's excellent work. Go to findarticles dot com and read some of the FBI's published papers on statement analysis and deception. You will be glad you did, if you are interested in cultivating the skill of learning when being lied to.

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