Binding: Paperback
Dewey Decimal Number: 248.4
EAN: 9780310210849
ISBN: 0310210844
Label: Zondervan
Manufacturer: Zondervan
Number Of Items: 1
Number Of Pages: 208
Publication Date: 1996-11-01
Publisher: Zondervan
Studio: Zondervan

Finding safe people provides the foundation for building healthy, lasting relationships. Here's how to identify safe people.

Customer Rating:
Summary: Spell It Out
Comment: This book spells out for you exactly what to look for in peope and what will keep you safe. Very awesome.

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Customer Rating:
Summary: Must-Read for Christian Relationship-Building
Comment: Cloud and Townsend, authors of the classic relational book "Boundaries," offer a wealth of insight here on developing healthy Christian relationships. They distinguish between safe and unsafe people, listing three categories of the latter: abandoners, critics and irresponsibles. They then continue to describe the character traits of unsafe people, and their interpersonal traits. Part two of the book asks the question, "Do I attract unsafe people?" The authors explore why so many of us get into unsafe relationships. In part three, safe people are portrayed, and the need of them explained. They close with a chapter on deciding whether or not to repair or to replace a relationship that is unsafe.

The portion of this book I found the most helpful was the valid point that churches do not always contain safe people. Many people in churches are unsafe, and some churches themselves are unsafe. The great need is for Christian discernment, and the authors provide insight in that regard.

I loved this book. I recommend it highly to anyone seeking to build healthy relationships that strengthen one another in Jesus Christ.

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Customer Rating:
Summary: Great Book!
Comment: I believe everyone would benefit from reading this book. Discover ways to improve your relationships by becoming a "safer" person and also learn to see how others may be toxic in your life. I really enjoyed this book because I love to learn about different behaviors in people which always lead to being able to help others in their time of need. The one thing I wish the book touched on that it didn't was what to do with unsafe people that you are "stuck" with, ie. family, not spouse. The only advice it gave was to proceed that relationship with caution...still, great advice.

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Customer Rating:
Summary: Been hurt? Read the book
Comment: This book is straight forward, easy to read, and ideal for anyone who has ever been in an abusive relationship, abandoned, had a troubled childhood, or just plain has issues connecting w/ people or maintaining relationships. It also sheds light on the common myth that being alone is better, or being alone is the only way to be close to God. When relationships go bad/end sometimes it's not you, but sometimes it is, and this book will help you clear up which it is, when, and how to fix it either way. Great book. Highly recommend it.

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Customer Rating:
Summary: Forgettable, Uninspiring
Comment: The first part of the book was okay, as it outlined the types of people who are "unsafe", but it completely wimped out on the reader. The authors give no solutions for improving relationships or finding safe people.

I expected that the book would be a lot more practical, and it just wasn't. It was very clinical and dry. Additionally, I find some of the concepts a tad spiritually "iffy". They seem to play fast and loose with scriptures, applying scriptures to situations that would have benefitted from any number of different scriptures. It was weird. His interpretation of scripture was a little odd. Also, most of they said was not backed up with a lot of scripture when you really evaluate it.

Also, it was poorly written. The sentence construction was poor. Technically it was correct, but overall a hindrance when you have to read a sentence three times to figure out its point. They just aren't versed in the art of writing.

In all a really dull and uninspiring read. Not at all helpful. I wish I had something better to say about it, but I don't. It was disappointing and forgettable.

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